Parents and the School

Benenden is not just for your daughters!

Parents are always warmly encouraged to visit Benenden and take part in school life and we are delighted that so many do. Parents and their guests are invited to attend our termly programme of cultural events, including our lecture programme, drama performances, music concerts and our many sporting events. 

School Worship

Parents and friends are welcome at any act of worship. A School Service is usually held on the first Sunday of each term in St George's, Benenden, at 9.15am. This service is compulsory for all students in school. School Services during term are held in the School Hall and are usually at 6.30pm. 

Exeat Arrangements

An Exeat is when the girls go out of school into the care of parents, relations or guardians.

It is important for a boarding school that Benenden's Exeat arrangements offer great flexibility in a very busy and stimulating weekend programme. Benenden is a great place to be at the weekend. However, we understand how important it is that school does not replace home life. We place great importance on getting the right balance for each pupil between staying in school, to take part in match fixtures and the wide range of activities open to all as part of the weekend programme, and going out of school to spend time with family and friends. Flexibility is the key.

Fixed Exeats (also known as Long Home Weekends)

Fixed Exeats are when all pupils go home to families or guardians. There are two Fixed Exeat weekends in the Autumn Term, two in the Spring Term and one in the Summer Term. These usually begin following lessons on a Friday from 12.30pm until Sunday evening at 7.30pm. Details are printed in the termly school diary. Half-term holidays are also Fixed Exeats. For all other weekends, Housemistresses and Housemasters are happy to discuss individual arrangements with parents.

Floating Exeats (also known as Optional Weekends)

We usually advise that two are taken each term, but there is no barrier to more being taken if necessary. These start after lessons and other commitments are completed on Saturday and last until 7.30pm (or 6.15pm on School Service Sundays).

Meals out at Weekends 

We do not set limits on girls taking meals out with family or friends at the weekends. However, we do ask parents to use their discretion. Permission must be sought from the Housemistress or Housemaster.